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Thursday, 4 March 2010

Tila in Wonderland


Do you remember when your Pa used to get out that belt and say, Son, this is going to hurt me more then in will hurt you!?

I feel that way about the next instalment/to be continued/The Saga from Tila Tequila .I wanted to leave it alone, I wanted to strip it all away and have a nice bath and quite possibly turn the lights very low after my first encounter. But I am hooked, I am speared, I am quite possibly going to get a cease and desist letter.

Just when I truly thought she might have shunned her Twitter account, she has arrived on Facebook. Just when we all thought her PR to the stars (or rather Janice Dickinson's mouth piece) had shut Tila down with what I am sure was threats of dropping her unless she complied, we are treated to the more subtle insanity of her status updates. I wonder what happens in the engine bit of her PR agency to direct her to this more abusive intrusion. It seems that when you let people loose with more then 40 characters, the party really gets started.

In the world of Tila, things can change in an instant, so I challenge you to keep up. In Tila's final Tweets she informs us that she needs to keep up with her “empires” so she wont be around till May. I count March on my calender as it goes. But lets put that aside. Tila is  afraid the the media is going to bash her, but sadly for Tila, no media want to bash her. Tila is also going to leave The Hollywood to bring up her son with a shower of 10,000 condoms because he is a baller. And the best the thing we should all look forward to is her garage sale where she will donate all the proceeds to "Jaydens Angels", her charity for children named after a baby she claims to have lost. But then, in the fashion that we are all used to Tila recants. No, she will keep the money she makes.


Just what is going on down that rabbit hole? It seems that Tila has been cut off from her life line. Her need to be “seen” like some sort of mini-Avatar creature is growing. She can't plug on for a hit. She can't dive in for the instant attention. Good or bad, it's all attention, right? But there is something darker to the Facebook she wanted. Frankly, if Tila thought Twitter was losing it's gleam, think again. It's all got just a little bit more dark round these internets. 

The villagers are coming and they have pitchforks.

A bad wind is brewing, and although one may perceive it as a storm in a teacup, it may be more then that. There are several websites claiming that Tila has promoted or at least hosted a hot bed for sex offenders. Chatroulette is doing far more abusive things, but it has no mentally ill face to it. Simon Monjack has been accused if taking donations in his dead wife's name without a clear charity status endorsement, yet the media and other blogs just call him a rather large douche bag. It leaves more questions then answers. I come back to the same round-about I got on over 2 weeks ago.

What is it that we love to hate about Tila? I wonder if is the Narcissist in us all, the mirror showing itself. Do we all have a touch of borderline personality disorder? I wonder if the transference extends to the drug addict who stole or stash or is it the fact that Tila is simply an asshole of the grandest kind.

Tila represents something in the collective that we cannot bear. She stirs something in us that makes us want to hurl a rather large object at her and in case we cant find one, a rather large set of furious rants. If we look at fairy tales, is she the witch in Rupunzle, the mother who gave her up, or Rupunzle herself? Or is she the father in the piece that let it all happen and did nothing?

I wonder and wonder and wait and wait. What will be this end game. I fear something in most traditional fairy tales.

I fear that Tila may mistake a gingerbread house for a fiery oven. 

Sunday, 28 February 2010

Sunday morning coming down


And I think it's going to rain. 
More. 

Sunday.

Saturday, 27 February 2010

Love and Hate



Although I think we already covered  Courtney Love and her questionable parenting/life/love/prescription choices, I was interested to see her fresh alliances with Perez Hilton.

I sometimes wonder if Perez Hilton thinks if he befriends a troubled woman she might turn herself around because he wills her so with his Fame Wand Of Glory. Or did he just buy her a Twitter Spell Check? Maybe Miss Love has a case of what her current nemesis Lilly Allen would call The Fear?

I find Perez Hilton such an interesting character, so many faces that even a hall of mirrors can't reflect them all. 

I don't have to tell you about Perez Hilton. You know him, his cheeky grin, his camp out and proud stance, his dog Teddy. Or maybe you know him because of vicious cruelty, his personal and  often humiliating attacks on young actresses, his outing of actors who never got the choice to make as he made it for them.

Perez Hilton is about as woman friendly as Don Imus. Misogyny is something that they both practice with finesse. Whilst Don says this about Hillary Clinton:


“…that buck-toothed witch Satan, Hillary Clinton… No, she is a -- she is a -- Oh, God! She is evil…Bill Clinton and his fat ugly wife, Satan…. “


Perez Hilton says this of Jennifer Aniston:


“I just don't think she's a nice person. I think she doesn't have a sense of humour. I think she's marginally talented, adequately good-looking, doesn't do anything to make the world a better place ..."


Uh-huh.

Hilton regularly attacks women, and the bile that flows from his website on the whole in degenerate. He is a bully of the highest order and it is fascinating that singers such as Katy Parry, Lady Gaga and actress Emily Rossum fostering loved up relationships with something and someone so deeply repugnant. And yet, so little of the small community that makes up such a powerful influence in pop culture disown him openly. And this is where said Fear comes into place.

Hilton often says that he is not “Perez Hilton”, not really. He says is a pretty nice guy who loves his mama and is loyal to his friends. He expresses that he is not as big an asshole as his nom de guerre makes him out to be. I imagine it is up to the reader to place his or her tongue firmly in his or her mouth as we read what a whore/bitch/loser Hilton casts his next victim as. By the way yes, it is OK for Hilton to call will.i.am a faggot, but ya better step back Isaiah Washington.

It is a shame that Perez Hilton has become the gate through which all celebrity life must pass in order to get a pass. It as if one has to endure being beat up by the school bully to be nominated as prom queen.

But as the Queen, Perez Hilton can scream OFF WITH HER HEAD!!

And if statbrain.com is right, 69,000 of us a day click on his website, stand back, and watch those coiffured tresses roll. 

Go us.

Thursday, 25 February 2010

Kittens.

I have had quite the accusation leveled at me.

I have been told I may be, well. Cranky. My blogs are cranky. I think they are insightful and interesting and Vanity Fair may just ring me any second.

However. I wish to put this right.


 


I think I may direct my self and my cloudy disposition in the direction of The Queen of All Cranky Behaviour.

Stay Tuned. Hold Steady.

Wednesday, 24 February 2010

Adjunct

Why are there so many shrinks openly on Twitter and or Social Networks?

I wonder how that makes a client feel.

I wonder what it is like to share your most important and sometimes only vital attatchment as the property of the world.

I wonder... do ethical boundaries mean very much anymore?

You tell me.

The Downfall of Anna O.



I think my Blog is having a real existential crisis. Does it stand alone, with no real purpose. Does it make any impact on the lives of others? Does it's construct have any external meaning?

I think what my Blog needs is a shrink. A well versed, salty old dog of a shrink. Because my Blog seems, in a rather misguided way, to focus on celebrity. I shall go to the source. The font of celebrity psyche, Dr. Drew Pinsky.
But what did you say? Dr. Drew Pinsky is not a registered therapist? He actually has no qualification in treating complex mental health issuues?

Well, no dear Blog. He does not. He is of course a member of the American Society for Addiction Medicine. But I am afraid my darling Blog, that is not the same as spending up to 14 years of study and training and placements and client hours. Hundreds of client hours to be named and registered as a psychotherapist.

But he is called Dr. Drew!!

Yes my beloved Blog, but that is because he is what they call an Internist. That's fancy speak for saying he is a Doctor of adult medicine. He can poke and prod you Blog, but I fear he is not licensed in the state of California or any other state as it happens, to practice on your crisis. Wait.. ok.. I lie. He is an Addictionologist.

AHA.. and you can't fool me on THIS one. He writes books about Narcissism, drug addiction, and pill popping. So THERE. AND he has a television show, where he therapizes people. He knows addiction! He DOES. He is a god of the 12 step movement!!

Well, Blog. I know this is going to really upset you. But see, Dr. Pinsky has not written one of those books independently. He has helpers, kinda like Santa's helpers. An even Dr. Michael Miller, one time President of the of the American Society of Addiction Medicine thinks Dr. Drew steps high wide and plentiful. I think the word he used was Hyperbole in referring to a piece of an interview Dr. Drew did with Playboy. Yes, Playboy.

So lets talk about Dr. Pinsky. Or rather lets talk about how We The People have let Dr. Pinsky into our collective unconcious. I never tip tap type without all the research I can get my hands on, and the background I found on Dr. Pinsky was pretty underwhelming.

Hand on heart I can find no more then two medical journal entries listed as authored by Drew Pinsky MD. Hmmmmm. I know that he is that he is Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Keck USC School of Medicine, that is for sure. I actually rang USC to ask them what exactly they mean by that title. I was under the impression that one had to be in training or trained in psychiatry for this title. As of press the button time, no one has been able to get back to me on that one. Maybe Drew is becoming a psychiatrist and has foiled me once again.

But I did find this:

David Drew Pinsky started off in 1985 as a humble med student and fell into his gig at the KROQ radio station's call-in show LoveLine. He was asked to appear as the resident doctor on a segment called “Ask The Surgeon”. In a slightly ironic twist, Dr. Pinsky was not qualified to be a doctor in the inception of his radio career. He was just Drew. But fame called and everyone in Los Angeles who has had even tuned into KROQ now knew who now Dr. Drew was. (I can confirm he is a of course currently Medical Doctor . I looked him up on the AMA, so it's all good)

In 1989, Drew Pinsky became Medical Director Of Los Encinas Chemical Dependency unit. As a medical doctor and I am sure his services were and are invaluable.

But I had to question: When does being a medical doctor qualify as a learned psychotherapist? It's sort of like saying you have have been a custodian at a school all your adult working life, so that gives you entitlements to teach Calculus. But on I went. I was sure to find something that vindicated with imperturbability of Dr. Drew's expertise. Why was he getting on the telly and Alice Miller is left to rot. Eh?

In 2003 Drew started to write. Well, he wrote and others corrected his spelling. I have yet to see a book with his name on it that he wrote into completion, by himself with only the help of a handy editor. In my search for better understanding about Dr. Pinsky and his career, I read some of his co authored books. It was his last one that pricked up my ears. How did Dr Drew know so much about Narcissism? Dr. Pinskys most current book is called “The Mirror Effect: How Celebrity Narcissism Is Seducing America”. And Here comes the science bit. He gave Dr. Drew's Narcissism Test to 200 celebrity participants. As much as that made me chuckle, it is hardly the kind of research we should be entitled to with the exposure Drew Pinsky is offered. And all smirking beside.. where exactly is the science bit?

However I continued my hard graft. I put his name into any search engine I get about 13 million hits for information, web pages, quotes and that sort of thing and over 7 million hits for images. And many of those images are with celebrities. Many of that information is Dr. Pinsky pathologizing people in the public eye he has never met with as patients before.

Lets take for example Lindsay Lohan, who is not a current or past patient of Dr. Pinsky:

I'm really convinced that something horrible is going to have to happen to her before she really gets over it and embraces sobriety. She needs to give it up.

-Dr. Pinsky on Lindsay Lohan and her past drug issues.

Or how about Tiger Woods?

What I heard was him beating himself up for being this bad person ... that's not recovery.

-Dr. Drew on Tiger Woods and sex addiction. Or rather taking Tigers Inventory For Him


Now, either someone is having a laugh, or Dr. Drew Pinsky is pulling a fast on on us. I think this is where all that training as a analyst or even a basic run of the mill therapist would have done him good. A few lectures on transference, maybe a read of Freud s points of "On Narcissism”, or maybe a good look in his own mirror.

In the true meaning of narcissism, the DSM-IV tells us that it is pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. Any therapist worth his or her professional integrity would have the empathetic reasoning and standard to never comment on the lives of others unless they were an agreed subject of a substantial body of ongoing work. Is it not grandiose to pontificate on matters or people Dr. Drew knows nothing personally about? I wonder if Dr. Drew just needs to feel admired for his talk talk talk. Lets face it, it is what he gets paid for. A talking head, but not a shrinker of heads.

Narcissistic much?

I find the last few sentences of an insightful article on Dr. Pinksy and his show Celebrity Rehab written by Chris Norris for the NY Times to be the most damning. Although I am horrified that Drew leads any kind of group therapy session, Tom Sizemore seems to get the game.

“May I just say that Tom’s experience, Tom’s childhood experience?” Pinsky told the group.

“Common to many experiences here. He actually told a story once that stayed with me.” Pinsky looked at Sizemore with obvious sympathy, then tried to prompt him. “You know?” he said. “About the crib?”

As Pinsky tried to draw him out, Sizemore looked back at Dr. Drew with a soft, tired smile. Finally he said,
 “Not on TV.”

But we continue to have Drew on TV. We will have him until we stop accepting that an MD does not mean inherent omniscience. That experience does not count for training and a body of ethics should be adhered to. But that's right, Dr. Drew does not have to adhere to those ethics that most workers in the psychiatry or mental health world have to. I wont wish for a TV Doctor Soul rehab.

But there is one thing I very much wish on Dr. David Drew Pinsky:

....I will respect the privacy of my patients, for their problems are not disclosed to me that the world may know. Most especially must I tread with care in matters of life and death. If it is given me to save a life, all thanks. But it may also be within my power to take a life; this awesome responsibility must be faced with great humbleness and awareness of my own frailty.


Above all, I must not play at God....






Tuesday, 23 February 2010

Do not fear, your Daily Nadir is here.

Well, I think the blog on Tila Tequila hit the mark. It seems as if her Tweets have hit and all time low and the "book" I wrote about her on this blog may have made a very slight dent. I will update anything I feel might be of interest.

I am working on another blog, but these things take time and thought.

EDIT

I also want to thak the folks over at Tila's Rot Spot.. they are doing some very complex and worthy work on getting child exploitation out of Tila's Hot Spot website. Well done.

As a taster, skip on over to this test. I will be getting to know Dr. Drew Pinsky very, very well over the next few days.

http://www.0eb.com/

Go well.